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Let Your Word Be Your Guide!

January 14, 2021 By Rosie 3 Comments

Chances are, you might have ever so slightly slid or even slam dunk fallen off your recently created, best intended, new years resolution. Don’t worry, I’m not beating on you for it. As a matter of fact, according to U.S News & World Report, you’re with a lot of other people. The failure rate is 80%, and most lose their resolve by mid-February, which is exactly why I’ve got a solution to your broken resolution.

Several years ago, I resolved to end this ridiculous idea. Why would I set myself up knowing that the odds are massively against me?

I replaced it with a new practice called “Word Of The Year” or “WOTY”. It’s a kinder, gentler, and I would argue, more powerful change agent that keeps you going throughout the year — making remarkable changes in your growth and attitude.

What’s in a word ?

Your word represents an idea/ feeling that you continually rise up to. Your word is kept top and center of all your actions and decisions throughout the year. What’s cool is that your word adjusts to each particular situation and different circumstance that comes along in your life.

Why I chose my WOTY

Truth be told, my word this year was exactly that. TRUTH. It’s the word that kept coming to me and so I decided it would be given the place of honor for 2021. Once you see how my word will fit into my life, you’ll see for yourself how to uncover yours.

My WOTY reminds me that my focus and my goals all lead with truth. It means that I will choose truth, being always mindful that I speak my truth. That I know the ultimate truth, which enables me to further my relationship with God. That I will seek the truth and not be blindly led my news or gossip. That I will allow others to experience their truth without judgement or trying to talk them into mine.

Wow, right? I know, it’s so expansive. My word has deeper legs than any single resolution I could have made. It’s easier to navigate and keep working with. It’s fun because I can watch myself learn and grow from it and can apply it directly to each life scenario I encounter.

How to chose your WOTY

So here’s what you do.

First reflect on it –

You can do this by visualizing what your perfect day feels like. What is your morning routine, how do you feel while you are working, how do you feel throughout the day? Think of a feeling (what you would want your perfect day to feel like) and look at words that match your feeling. Make a list of the world that speak to you. For example you can make a list like this:

action, balance, integrity, health, simplicity, peace, creativity, grace, patience, joy, fun, focus, growth…

…you get the idea. Use your feelings and look up words that represent it. Words you can aspire to and have fun with. Circle 2-3 words that jump out to you.

Second meditate on it —

Place yourself in a relaxed state. Set the scene with soft music, candlelight. Close your eyes and let your intuition flow. Let it do the work. Which word will be yours this year? Ask yourself what feels right, exciting, even a little scary? (and don’t worry, you can pick 2 if you’re really fond of them) This is a great way to practice your intuitive guidance – so let it lead the way.

Why it works

It works because it’s simple. It’s doable and it’s actionable. It’s fun and easy to keep your word with you.

Here are 5 fun and effective ways to keep your word:

1) Post it – You can write it on a post it note and stick on your refrigerator, bathroom mirror and computer. I like to make it into a book more.

2) Book Mark it – This is my favorite. I cut a piece of pretty paper to bookmark size, write my word, decorate with images and laminate it. You can do this at staples or your can purchase your own laminator. Big tip: I bought a laminator years ago for this very project. You can turn this WOTY idea into an annual family new year project

3) Frame it – My daughter does this every year. She writes her word, and the definition along with it – so she’s super clear on her goal – puts her frame front and center in her home so she sees it everyday.

4) Bead it – One year I even made a beaded bracelet with those alphabet beads you can find at the craft store. This is super fun, because your arm is never far from you. If you don’t want to involve yourself in making your own, there are companies out that there will do this for you – check out ETSY.

5. Rock it – Paint your word on a rock. Use your rock as a paper weight for your dest or decoration for your dresser.

The point is you want to make your word your point.

Your WOTY is expansive. It has the meaning you give it and can be applied to all areas of your life – remember the example I showed you with my truth.

It becomes the foundation you build upon. Unlike a resolution which is specific and sometimes narrowly focused, your word grows with you. You’ll find it less restrictive and you won’t throw in the towel on it. You can use your word in your daily meditation journaling or as a mantra to keep you focused.

Don’t sweat that it’s not the beginning of a new year at this moment or that you need to wait for next new year’s eve to hit go. Right now is the perfect time to begin this fun new practice that will take you thru the rest of this year feeling focused and good about what you’re up to.

Your assignment if you choose to accept it – Keep your word and use your feet (aka take action).

A Brand New Perspective

January 10, 2020 By Rosie Leave a Comment

Every moment of every day is a opportunity to make a new and different choice.

If where you are isn't feeling so good right now, you have within you, the power to change that right now.

Imagine that for a moment !

This is incredibly wonderful news, especially when you're in the midst of struggle, angst, challenge. If you knew that you could "snap" out of it, at any point you choose, it certainly would lighten up the challenging part. Wouldn't it?

Hold on a sec. I hear you may be saying "Rosie, you're making light of my difficult moments. It's not that easy to snap out of it".

Just for a moment , humor me. What if it were actually that easy? What if you could change your perception on a situation and watch the situation change right before your eyes? These type of perception corrections feel like miracles. And they are. And they are possible. At every moment of every day. (btw, miracles aren't always big grandiose events, they happen anytime you see things from a more enlightened view point. They are natural parts of life and they happen everyday. Be open to them and you'll be amazed at how often they swirl around you)

We are programmed to believe that change has to be hard. We are programmed to believe that struggle and challenge is how it's supposed to be. These thoughts of struggle and challenge are not conscious. They are deeply embedded in our subconscious from past and prior experiences. We pull all of our thoughts from our past experiences. Our thoughts are based on what we previously experienced and learned from school, TV, parents, friends, government. We don't consciously recognize that we're having thoughts that are based on our past, but it's true. Everything you see is translated and measured by what you've experienced prior to now.

Let's look at an example. We've all heard that "artists are starving". You've placed that somewhere in your subconscious and there it sits in your "operating system" just waiting for that moment to remind you of your rule. You may have used that belief on yourself - talking yourself out of pursuing a creative endeavor and you may have even used it on others, to convince your child or your a friend that they need to find a secure position instead of a creative one. The thinking behind this is your belief that it could potentially, according to your old belief system, make them starve. Deep down you’re trying to protect yourself from “starving”. The truth is holding back a God given talent and your creativity is seriously painful as it depletes your heart and starves your soul.

I know. Ugh! Because it's not really true that artists starve now, is it? Think Walt Disney, Grandma Moses, Sylvester Stallone. They kept going when the going was tough, when they were rejected and told they should move on to something else.

Now imagine if these creative souls had decided to give up on their dreams because of the possibility that they might starve because of it. What if they all went and go themselves a “secure” position somewhere. OMG... the world would miss out on the beauty and talent and gifts that were meant to be shared and that bring all of us joy!

Miracles happen everyday and anything is possible.

Imagine that for yourself. Write it down and tape it on your refrigerator.

Imagine if you could develop a new way of thinking that included not being stuck in your old limiting beliefs and patterns.

When you change the way you think, your life will dramatically change for the better. If you like this idea, it is going to involve your participation and some self reflective work. But trust me on this one, the effort you put in to enhance and grow yourself will bring peace and joy to your daily life.

Here are 3 principles you can begin to practice right now.

You will be amazed at how differently you will feel, almost immediately. Eventually you'll become so good at it, you won't even recognize that your doing anything at all. You'll just begin to feel more peaceful and joy filled.

1) Recognize that everything you think, was learned from someone or something. Remind yourself of this whenever you have a thought. Ask yourself, is what I'm thinking really true or is there another way to look at it?

2) Understand that what others say has nothing to do with you. They are basing their thoughts and opinions on their learned programming and operating system. So don't mix their crap with your crap and expect to get anything good out of it. Knowing this will help you take other people's opinions with with a grain of salt. Remember that "others peoples opinions are not of your business". Plant that new rule and begin to mind your own business.

3) Change your perspective. When you're thinking thoughts that don't feel good, when you're thinking thoughts that make you shrink, contract, feel tight, ask yourself if there is another way to look at it? What is the other view point that I can't see right now? Here's where you can add in a little prayer, as simple as saying, "God, help me to see this situation as you would see it?" Wherever you are standing, look around, physically move your location to the opposite side of the room, and look around. You're in the same room but things look different. Add that to your arsenal of proof that a few small steps can make a big difference.

Give these ideas a whirl. Take these inspirations for a ride.

Tap into your tenacity. Sprinkle on some grace.

You will find yourself in the most amazing place and better able to handle all the stuff that life throws at you from a more stable, centered, aligned place.

PS. If you're ready for change, ready to view situations, circumstances and events from a different perspective, New Beginnings is the perfect place to start. In this LIVE mini workshop, (offered only once a year in January) we'll take a good look at where you are and where you want to be. Together in this class, you'll let go of the old, be grateful for now and welcome in the new. Of course there's much juicy stuff you'll learn. I can't tell you all of it here 🙂 Join me and get the clarity you crave for creating a year of 2020 with vision and purpose.

7 Reasons You Can’t Lose Those Last 20

December 16, 2013 By Rosie Leave a Comment

Last year you told me the same story. I remember you telling me that this was going to be the year!

Every New Years Day you say that this is going to be the year you finally let go of those relentless 20 pounds that love to hang around with you.

How can I say this gently? Hmmm… I can’t.

So let me be real with you here and suggest that besides being an amazing rockin’ being, you are an amazing rockin’ storyteller. You could win awards for your stories.

There I said it. And yes you are.

You are so good at your own stories that you actually believe them. Now that can be good or that can be bad. It all depends on if the story you tell yourself makes you feel good or makes you feel bad.

If you are using any of these 7 story lines, it may be the reason why you CAN’T get what you want.

1. You are fully vested in your self sabotaging saga. You say things like, “I DON’T HAVE THAT EXTRA TIME TO DO WHAT IT TAKES TO GET WHAT I WANT”

2. It’s comfy cozy to have the same problem to wake up to every morning. You say things like, “WHEN I LOOSE THIS EXTRA WEIGHT, I’LL BE START TO LOOK FOR THAT NEW JOB AND RELATIONSHIP”.

3. Your old story is a great standby and is willing to take all the blame. You say things like, “WHEN I LOOK AND FEEL BETTER, I’LL START TO LOOK FOR A DATE”.

4. You’re into beating… yourself up and you love to feel bad. You say things like, ” IT’S MY AGE. THE WHOLE MENOPAUSE THING HAS ME STUCK HERE AND NOTHING I DO SEEMS TO WORK FOR ME…

5. You don’t want to upset your “fat” friends. You say things like, ” I DON’T WANT TO MAKE ANYONE ELSE FEEL BAD ABOUT THEMSELVES SO I’LL STAY STUCK WITH THEM”.

6. You are a great story teller and not sure what else you’d have to talk about? You CONSTANTLY remind yourself of all the things you do wrong. So you feel like the “biggest loser” but you can’t lose any weight.

7. You’re terrified of the that rockin’ healthy, sexy, confident version of yourself. You won’t even go here because you don’t even think it’s possible.

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The moral of this story is that the story you create is the way you live your life. When you tell me that you CAN’T, then I will tell you that you are absolutely right! It comes down to what you believe. What you believe is your life. Are you willing to change your thoughts and step into the amazing life that is yours for the asking?

I believe I CAN do, be or have anything. I believe that you CAN too…

You don’t have to do this alone and having support really helps. Check out this opportunity to get all the tools you need for rewriting this crazy-ass silly story that is keeping you stuck or even worse, keeping you “just okay”.

What is that one thing that you really want to change ? And what if? What if it actually were possible? How would that feel?